The Phone Calls
She was given a gift certificate to save her story with me.
But during our first phone call, I heard:
“I’m too sick.”
“I don’t have my photos anymore.”
“I don’t have room in my apartment for you.”
“I have nothing to say.”
Sadly, the reasons to abandon a project that hadn't even started just kept coming.
For each obstacle, I proposed a solution.
And then in a despondent tone, she shut down and said, “My kids don’t care about my story. It’s too late.”
I hate to hear those words. I don't even believe those words. Yet, I respected her decision.
I don't force anyone to share their story. It's not right, and I won't do it.
So, we agreed to postpone her gift.
About a month later, she made two phone calls. The second was for me.
Ring. Ring. “Will you come and save my life story this weekend? I just got off the phone with hospice.”
And then she said,
“My kids don’t care about my story. It’s too late.”
What She Really Wanted
I rushed to her bedside, expecting to record only fifteen minutes at a time as she caught her breath.
She spoke for nearly six hours without a real break.
This courageous woman whose past was painted with accomplishment, fear, and love, knew exactly what she wanted to say, and she wanted someone to listen.
And, when I asked her why she was finally willing to meet with me, she said, “Because I want to be in charge of how my story is told. I love my children, but I don’t want them to tell my story.”
She wanted the power of the pen.
She knew exactly
what she wanted to say.
The Power of the Pen
Years ago, while I was working in a corporate job, a colleague gave me an astute piece of advice,
“Always offer to take the minutes of a meeting. The person with the pen has a lot of power over how the meeting is remembered.”
The same is true with your life story, your legacy.
You know your story better than anyone else. You should be the one to tell it.
If you’re not ready just yet, subscribe and keep reading my newsletters until you are.
You have no idea who your story will empower.
But it can’t empower anyone until you take control of the pen.
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Check out my Life Story School!
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